"Never turn down the volume of who you are for anyone. When the world attempts to shush you, shame you, silence you, or tells you to act normal, please don’t." - Marie Forleo
Years ago I had a friend tell me, "you are too happy. It's hard to be around you sometimes because you are too happy."
What my friend failed to realize on that day; my happiness was a direct result of her. That day, I was happy because I was spending time with a friend who I loved, enjoyed, laughed with, and yes - made me happy.
I was crushed in that moment. Suddenly being me was somehow wrong.
I remember thinking, " Maybe she is right. I should turn down the volume on my happiness."
Did I turn down my volume? Yeah, I tried for a while. Try being the word. But it wasn't me. I couldn't help but be happy when I surrounded myself with friends and people. I am an extrovert. I get energy from people. It makes me happy!
Trying to turn down my volume was trying to deny who I was. I was trying to conform and be less happy to make others feel happier. Read that again. I was trying to be less happy to make others happy. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that formula does not work.
What does work? Being you.
We all get happy. We all get sad. We all don't feel our best all the time. But if you are feeling happy - don't turn it down. Share your happiness. Adjusting your volume is not how you bring someone else’s up.
Karen Tran Seattle Life Coach www.karentrancoaching.com
Karen Tran is a girl from the state where Starbucks began. She is a Seattle Life coach, home cook, lover of coffee, wine, food, music, dancing, and sunshine. When she is not coaching you can find her spending time with her family and friends and walking her dog Penny. Karen has always felt a pull to help others live their happiest life. She sees in others what they may have trouble seeing in themselves.