"Never turn down the volume of who you are for anyone. When the world attempts to shush you, shame you, silence you, or tells you to act normal, please don’t." - Marie Forleo
Years ago I had a friend tell me, "you are too happy. It's hard to be around you sometimes because you are too happy."
What my friend failed to realize on that day; my happiness was a direct result of her. That day, I was happy because I was spending time with a friend who I loved, enjoyed, laughed with, and yes - made me happy.
I was crushed in that moment. Suddenly being me was somehow wrong.
I remember thinking, " Maybe she is right. I should turn down the volume on my happiness."
Did I turn down my volume? Yeah, I tried for a while. Try being the word. But it wasn't me. I couldn't help but be happy when I surrounded myself with friends and people. I am an extrovert. I get energy from people. It makes me happy!
Trying to turn down my volume was trying to deny who I was. I was trying to conform and be less happy to make others feel happier. Read that again. I was trying to be less happy to make others happy. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that formula does not work.
What does work? Being you.
We all get happy. We all get sad. We all don't feel our best all the time. But if you are feeling happy - don't turn it down. Share your happiness. Adjusting your volume is not how you bring someone else’s up.
Karen Tran Seattle Life Coach www.karentrancoaching.com
Are you someone who dreads Monday? Not looking forward to going to work or school?
A quick change in how you look at Monday is possible.
Try this: Instead of saying “I have to go to work tomorrow”, change the have to get.
“I get to go to work tomorrow.”
This is a simple tool for incorporating gratitude in your life.
One small mindset shift overtime can have a large impact on the way you look at your life.
If I wasn't the one in the photo, I would have never believed it was me.
- It was my first time on a stand-up paddle board, and my first time doing Yoga on a stand-up paddle board.
- I am not a Yogi. I am somewhere between knowing several poses, and spending half the class looking around the room at others to see what I should be doing.
- I was away on a girls weekend a few years back. We wanted to try something different and so SUP Yoga we did.
- I remember thinking:
- Can you guess what happened?
I fell off into the water. A LOT. I fell off the most out of my two friends.
- Was I embarrassed? No. Did I have fun? Heck yeah. Was I proud of myself for simply "trying" something new? Fo' shizzle!
- Where in your life do you find yourself avoiding something for fear of failure? Fear of looking silly? Fear of not being perfect at something right away?
- WHAT IF you just tried...
- When you TRY you end up DOING no matter what the DOING looks like or how it ends up.
- That day on the lake I TRIED stand-up paddle board yoga. What I DID was "fall into the water a lot" in-between yoga poses.
Every time I see this photo, I am reminded of what I did that day: I tried, had fun, gained a new experience; and for that I am proud of myself.
- "We are the only ones standing in our own way from trying new things. Get out of your own way and just try.
You will be amazed at what is inside of you already, waiting to show you what YOU can do."
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Karen Tran is a girl from the state where Starbucks began. She is a Seattle Life coach, home cook, lover of coffee, wine, food, music, dancing, and sunshine. When she is not coaching you can find her spending time with her family and friends and walking her dog Penny. Karen has always felt a pull to help others live their happiest life. She sees in others what they may have trouble seeing in themselves.